Laws of Attraction

Gravity is a law. You cannot defy gravity. An aeroplane can defy gravity because it works with aerodynamics. Thing is, there are certain laws that we can live by in order to live a fulfilling life. The thoughts you think today determine your tomorrow. The mind is powerful and when it has an idea, the universe sets it into place.  When you say or think to yourself, “it will never happen.” you are creating your outcome! The direct subconscious and conscious thoughts you have will result in manifestation of that particular outcome.


How do I shift my brain into positive thinking? That’ s easy, you know the saying, garbage in, garbage out – well that pretty much sums it up. If you watch the news, you’re going to feel negative, if you allow someone to give you bad news, it’s going to get into your head. I don’t watch television and I make a conscious effort to read positive quotes daily! I listen to music that makes me happy and peaceful and I spend time with the people I love and over time your brain has a paradigm shift to the positive and you start seeing the results manifest in your life. If you want further information regarding this, please do not hesitate to contact me and I will guide you to the correct people who specialise in this field. As a man thinketh, so is he. You are your thoughts, what are you thinking about today?

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let not this blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams; it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy.

--- Max Ehrmann, 1927

What your child needs to hear from you.

The other day my son said something magnificent:

Quotes from Travis Westman (my 9yr old son) "Mom, look here, I am the first person to jump off this big hill! Now put that on Facebook!" ... "Mom, I was put on this earth for a reason, it's something big but I don't know what it is, maybe i'll be seriously rich one day, I don't know but it's really big! I know it!" Bless him 100 times over 100..love him to bits! He teaches me daily! Another thing he once told me "mom, we all have a good side and a bad side but we must choose which side we want to be on." "There is a right side and a wrong side" "choose the right side" in all of this, I know why he was put on this earth, he is my angel!

You need to learn from your children. Your children are wiser than you think because they are a lot more open minded than adults. As we get older, we forget the truth. We forget how special we are and we forget the role we play in life. As children, we trust! As adults, we fear. It's time to open your mind and fear less! 

Your child needs to be reminded daily how special he or she is. They need to be told that dreams are real, that the impossible is actually possible and that they are powerful if their minds can believe it. Look at the story of Mark Shuttleworth, as a child, his dream was to fly to the moon, everyone laughed at him, yet he believed in himself. He never stopped believing, regardless of the circumstance, regardless of the opposition he received from peers, he pressed onto his goal and he was the first man to buy a ticket to the moon!

Give them daily affirmations, talk to them continually. Tell them to shut their teachers up if the teacher belittles him or her. The teachers that tell your child anything negative are not teachers at all! One great thing that I know that I am doing right is the ability to always speak good things over my son, that he can be aware of his role in life and see life as beautiful. You will raise a very stable, confident adult who will and can achieve anything if he or she sets their minds on their dreams! Be the kind of parent that empowers your child for greatness!

Help Someone

The biggest gift you can give to yourself is to lend a helping hand. Help the less fortunate, help with job creation and give!

The moment you stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about future generations, life starts to make sense. Amazing things start to happen when your heart and mind and soul is shifted to a greater purpose than yourself. 

There are many different ways to help someone in need, it can be the tiniest little thing. I know I have been helped in so many ways and more! Pay it forward, keep the love going and you will soar!

Assumptions

One of the things I'm not proud of is my lack of finding out the details and then just assuming I know everything. I assume without clear research and that is a serious downfall of mine. I'm not upset about it as the only way to learn in life is to make mistakes but I still assume quite a lot without properly evaluating a situation or person for that matter. 

Life lessons come in all forms and I have had to learn the hard way but I am excited that at least I can see my errors. I assume something and then just write about it for the public to read without doing effective research and that is a big blunder of mine. Thankfully I did eventually see my error and quickly corrected it. I still have a long way to go in the University of life but I am enjoying every minute of it. 

As the old saying goes," if you assume, you make an ass out of you and me" 

Do your research and get that interview first before thinking you know everything! Talk to people that know about the subject first. Be brave and just do it!

deprogramming - a snippet from my book

Deconstruction and deprogramming: a way to allow your heart to guide you instead of opinions!

Before I go on let me warn you. Do not go onto the internet or read books on deprogramming. This will not help you in any way possible! This will in fact make things worse.  If you have already, then you understand why you are already confused.

Lets do the definition first:

Deprogramming refers to actions that attempt to force a person to abandon allegiance to a religious, political, economic, or social group. Methods and practices typically involve violent kidnapping and coercion. Similar actions, when done without force, are called "exit counselling".

I am not talking about deprogramming a serious cult person. I am talking about the day to day growing up.  It takes constant deprogramming from societies ideas that were imposed on you in your childhood, you have to let it go and start again.

The best way to deprogram yourself is silence. No.. I am not talking about going into the wilderness and doing a Ghandi experience. I am talking about staying away from books and focus on your heart. You might go through some serious emotions but focus and trust that whatever happens, you will be okay!  I prefer to call it deconstruction because not everything that you have learned gets tossed away. Your mind is simply pulled apart and rebuilt. I am no pro at this, I am merely writing from my own personal experience. 

deconstruction - a philosophical theory of criticism (usually of literature or film) that seeks to expose deep-seated contradictions in a work by delving below its surface meaning

deconstructionism

philosophy - the rational investigation of questions about existence and knowledge and ethics

philosophical doctrine, philosophical theory - a doctrine accepted by adherents to a philosophy

literature - creative writing of recognized artistic value

Try not to read a self help book for at least two years. 

Silence the opinion of others until you develop your own. 

There is not much more to say in this area but I won’t because I don’t want to lure you towards my way of thinking. I’m simply showing you my own experience. This is not an overnight process. Healing is not instant. Be patient with yourself and go with the flow. Enjoy life and don’t take things seriously. You will not die from developing your own mind. As scary as it may seem, your mind has this amazing ability to reboot with new information-real, authentic, heart driven information. It can delete old ways of thinking and upload new ways of thinking that aligns yourself to your heart. I remember thinking that I was going crazy but now I feel a sense of achievement because I let go of all of the little voices and heard myself think. Every now and then I fall back and then I remind myself to bounce back into what is real for me.

Try not to watch too much television and opt for music that calms you. Go camping and find truth in the outdoors. Throw yourself into nature and true friends who have always been there for you. Get rid of the fake friends who constantly bombard you with opinions. Take time to inhale and exhale. Learn to love yourself and before you know it, the world will make sense again.

Pay your employees

I think the hardest thing for me was when I worked for a company that didn't pay me. In essence, no I won't sue them, that is not my style. The one thing that is certain is that the company that didn't pay me will ultimately not succeed. Their name is now torn down and I don't need to sue them because the damage is already being done. I don't expect them to pay me, If they have not paid me yet, I doubt they will pay me. I mentioned it to close friends and that is all it takes. News spreads like wild fire and if you are not paying your employees, don't expect silence!

When your employees are unhappy, if you treat them badly, if you don't pay them, your business is at stake. I remember working for a company where the bosses where very mean to their employees and the word spreads whether I spread it or someone else does and outsiders see it! They were very unhappy with me because I stood up for myself when I felt abused. If your employees are working hard and you still mistreat them, your business is not going to flourish! It is far better to encourage your employees than to puff yourself up and belittle their efforts. This one lady that worked with me was the target of a lot of female hatred. All the sales reps gave her such a hard time when all this lovely lady was doing was trying her best. She always came to work very miserable because she knew the kind of office environment she was heading towards. I felt for her because she was so young and these older ladies were really nasty to her. I don't know how well that office is doing right now but I don't think it's a happy office environment. Business goes sour when the employees are sour. 

Remember the people behind the scenes that make your office shine everyday. Don't forget the important role they play in your business. Treat them with respect and honour! If you have an unhealthy office environment, you are in trouble and you need to work on making sure your employees are happy. They are the foundation of you earning money at the end of every month and without them, your business will not have the strength to flourish. I am not all knowledgeable but there is something I know about offices and how they operate and I know that an atmosphere is strong and if your office has a cold atmosphere due to office politics, you are in trouble! Work on team building efforts and order pizza for the office every now and then. Make your employees feel like family. They are important, make sure that message is carried across. Don't be unapproachable either. Who said you are higher than your employee? Your employee is also a person with feelings, remember that! Remain humble!

Make sure their job description is their job description. Don't make them run around for other people that they end up doing their colleagues duties. I was so soft back then and if anyone told me to do something for them I would and I ended up doing most of what other employees should have been doing. Allow your employee the freedom to say no when a colleague pushes on duties that are not part of the job description. There will be a lot of resentment built up if not dealt with soon. To manage means managing the people around you as well and if you have no back bone to stand up to certain people taking advantage of others, you will have employees leaving over and over again. You will hire a new employee and still they will quit because you are not paying attention. It's easy to quit. I am the kind of person that will point out issues. I don't quit thankfully, I stay but there are a lot of people that don't or can't handle it when a manager cannot solve the issues that are clear to everyone. 

If you have a difficult employee, explain the situation to them. Understand their issues but bring across the message of what business is. Make them feel important, make them feel a part of the team. For example there was a lady in one of the offices I worked for, let's call her "Goliath". Goliath was very loud, full of herself, wasn't a manager but loved bossing other people around. Goliath loved making the employees feel small and incompetent. She would shout and swear at them. Even if the employee was double her age, a factory worker who dedicated his life to the company for years, Goliath was twenty something but would get away with plain rudeness and would easily belittle who he was as a person. No one stood up to her. Three employees quit within a few months. Who was the problem? Was it the employees that were quitting or was it that no one stood up to Goliath? Poor managing skills will directly hurt your business. A happy business is one where there is much respect for everyone! Respect and care for those who make sure they come to work everyday. If they aren't respected, they will arrive to work late, they will not be eager or passionate about their work. I've seen it too many times! Get a team building expert in and solve issues quickly! Don't delay it!